There’s a favorite expression of mine I like to share a lot, because it’s had such a powerful impact on my life.

It’s kind-gentle-easy-good.

I used to be the kind of person who would force open doors that were meant to be closed, climb up mountains that weren’t meant to be climbed, and in general try to push giant boulder’s uphill.

It often worked in the short-run, but like the Greek legend of Sisyphus, eventually those boulder’s would roll right back down the hill, usually right back over me.

That explains near-death accident #2. But that’s a story for another day.

But I would try to force things to work.

In the case of my second book tour which lead to the accident, there were dozens of indications it wasn’t meant to be.

I was holding the talks at REI’s, which had a massive internal layoff of all their event organizers. That should have been a sign!

Then the RV I’d be driving lost it’s transmission just weeks before the tour. Then a second RV died after I rented it. Not once, or twice, but three times…putting me in and out of dealerships.

Then it got broken into. Followed by not one, but two car accidents on the same day! Not to mention how it got stuck tipped onto two wheels in the Hoh Rain Forest.

I could go on and on, but you get the point.

There were not-so-subtle hints, that I was headed in the wrong direction, or out of sync with the universe.

But I wouldn’t quit. I just kept pushing that boulder up the hill.

It wasn’t that I was doing the “wrong” thing.

It was that I wasn’t listening to my gut or higher guidance, or taking it slow and steady as she goes-which is the theme for today.

Oh if I’d only had my automatic writing back then!

When we push or strain to get what we want, we’re often out of sync with the universe, even just a little bit.

You can tell this when you try to do something out of a panic, or a desire to get moving, even if you don’t know which way to go.

I call it IGGY, after an ex-girlfriend who always needed to bolt, anytime the discussion got serious. She’d yell I gotta go, and then fly out the door. And so I call it IGGy, as in, I’ve Gotta Go Yo!!!

The trick with IGGy is it’s anything but patient, or kind-gentle-easy-good.

Going before you’re ready, or leaping before you look or know where to go, only helps you jump from the cauldron into the flame.

We do it when we don’t have faith in ourselves or the direction we’re going.

Instead of getting still, listening on the inside, being patient, and seeing what unfolds, we try to force the situation, jumping straight into the fire.

And so today, I ask you to ask yourself, are you going IGGy anywhere? Is there anywhere you’re making a mad panicked dash, out of fear, rather than love?

If so, slow down, take a pause, and be extra kind-gentle-easy-good about things.

If you pause and things fall apart, then you were meant to go a different way.

And if you pause and the answer comes to you, or the door opens, then that’s awesome as well.

There’s no right or wrong in this game. We get the learnings either way.

But when you go with flow & move kind-gentle-easy-good, things work out & without the pain of a boulder rolling right back over you.

And if things don’t work out on the surface, it really is direction, and in the long-run, you’ll be grateful.

For as I like to joke with my coaching clients with an awful Marlon Brando impersonation, the Universe loves to say “You can do things the easy way, or the hard way.”

In my case, particularly for that book tour, I chose the hard way. Ouch!

Either way, you’re gonna learn, and things will work out.

In one way though, all of your muscles, tendons, bones, your wallet and your psyche, will still be intact!

And the other, well, that’s a tale for another day!

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